Sunday, 17 April 2016

The Male Gaze

Here's a snippet from London College of Fashion Student, Becky Faerber, on The Male Gaze:

There is a huge desire to satisfy the requirements of the male gaze within women's fashion. 

Materialism of women both sexually and maternally through film and advertising commonly objectifies them to the ‘male gaze’. Both the pleasure of looking (scopophilia) and the pleasure of being looked at (exhibitionism), implies that both parties are 'stimulated' by such images.



Rogue by Rhianna (fragrance) - Google Images

This advertisement has been banned from certain places for being too “sexually suggestive”. However, as the Guardian states, “The company believed the majority of women would not consider the portrayal of Rihanna to be demeaning, but rather she was depicted as being in a position of power, as indicated by the name Rogue, which suggested “one with the courage to challenge boundaries.”

Although the image is supposed to present Rihanna as powerful, it could also be seen to objectify her sexually. This then creates a sexualised culture making it acceptable to appear this way. Then encouraging this throughout society: creating a construction of the female ideal.

Society creates what culturally is seen as ‘beautiful’ and ‘unique’ and implies that women have to abide by it, but actually this is just a construction to which most people aspire. 
For example, in the modern day, the ‘pre-adolescent’ body is presented as the female ideal due to the media presenting these figures as perfect - but it didn't used to be this way. The female body is altered and changed to enable fashion to look appealing throughout the whole of history. This is seen through the use of the corsets, and in today’s society within the use of dieting and cosmetic surgery.
In the book ‘The Feminine Ideal’, Thesander argues, “In order to be accepted as a ‘woman’ it is not enough to have a woman’s body or to be feminine: you first have to meet the social demands of femininity.” This presents the idea that you cannot necessarily be biologically a female, but it’s the way you present yourself to society that makes you a female, through the way you dress and how you look...

MY SUMMARY:

I think perhaps there's this paradox of craving the attention of the male gaze yet also being repulsed and in fear of it (i.e. that potentially creepy looking man who stares at you in the street). 

Yikes. In my opinion, you've only got to look at images (or search particular #'s) all over Instagram [or need I mention Snapchat?] to see how many girls are posting provocative, sexually-enticing images of themselves for whatever reason - which I am not to judge. The terrifying thing is that I'm sure it's becoming more and more frequent - begging the question, has it therefore been normalized because it's a female ideal constructed by the media? 

Food for thought ey?! It strikes me that IF society objectifying women is acceptable because it's culturally attractive (and pleasurable because it draws the male gaze) and therefore becomes a female ideal then what lifestyle/challenge/issue does this present for women and young girls today?

Agree? Disagree? Thoughts?

I'll keep you posted.



Thursday, 10 March 2016

Revelations of #NOMAKEUP

So y'all know I've given up make-up for lent - and I've shared the reasons why (read here). 
I believe I'm almost 30 days into the challenge, so what has struck me most so far?


no make-up | no filter | no edit ~ @jessiefaerber 

1.   I am free

I am loving it. And I hoped I'd get to this point, but thought it would be very unlikely! The first week (especially the first few days) SUCKED. But it proves that once you push through an awkward period of uncomfortable change, liberation knocks at your door


I love that I'm thinking less about how I look. I love that I can look in the mirror and be comfortable in my own skin with my own, natural face. I love that I've broken free of the chains that compelled me to wear make-up. I love that I'm still loved by family, friends (and Robbie of course). I love that it's provoked conversation about image, and how much it has sparked new insight


Don't get me wrong, I'm looking forward to being able to wear it again - but the interesting thing will be to see whether I actually do or not...


2.   I am more than my appearance


Rupi Kaur sums this bit up for me very well:


As I've said before - I'm still the same Jessie no matter whether I wear make-up or not. But this should impact us on a deeper level. 'Pretty', 'attractive', 'beautiful' (etc) seem to be the compliments we strive for in this society. I know I have. We dish them out to young girls from a very young age, and we surround them with images of the perfect woman - so it's not flipping surprising. 

WHY do we put this on eachother and ourselves?!

I've been really challenged to think about the way I view myself as more than my image. I'm talking about my characteristics. I'm talking about what makes me ME; what makes me unique. I don't want to be just 'pretty'. I want to be pretty wise, pretty resilient, pretty brave, pretty faithful, pretty loving........


This had a knock-on realisation for me: I want to be a woman who champions this in other women (however young or old they may be). I want to shift my thinking to assess the hearts of other women before I assess the square footage of their face (!) And I want my words of encouragement and compliments to reflect that. 


3.   I am my heart


This follows on from point number 2. However, at this point I want to bring in God - don't stop reading! I'm a follower of Jesus, dreaming and conversing with God about each step I take in life and all for playing my part in God's master-story.


The last few days I've been mulling over the fact that we have NO idea what God looks like.


As human beings, we were created in the image of God himself: "God created mankind in His own image" (Genesis 1:27 NIV). And we're called to be like Him. Our indicator of what He is like is in the Bible (and through His son, Jesus): wise, faithful, loving, good, compassionate, generous, creative...  


SO, being created in the image of God and growing into His likeness MUST be about our heart, who we are, the characteristics we possess BECAUSE we have no idea what God - our Creator - looks like. So why are we human beings (His children created in His image) more obsessed with what we look like than who we are and were created to be by Him? Kinda getting my jist?


"People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart" (1 Samuel 16:7 NIV)


God is the ultimate designer of your heart and my heart. 


Next time you look in the mirror, assess the condition of your heart. 

Next time you look at someone else, assess who they are, not just what they look like. 
Next time you pick up your make-up, consider giving it up for a significant period of time and see what it teaches you. 

I'll keep you posted.